WELLBEING — Protecting Yourself From Covert Bullying
Protecting Yourself from Covert Bullying
In the world of performance — whether in school productions, youth theatre, or early professional work — you're likely to meet a wide range of personalities. Most people are supportive, but sometimes, you'll encounter subtle forms of bullying: exclusion, gossip, backhanded compliments, or silent treatment. This kind of behaviour — often called covert bullying — can be hard to spot, and even harder to call out, but it can still take a real toll on your confidence and wellbeing.
Here’s the most important thing to remember: someone else’s behaviour does not define your worth. If you're being treated unfairly or made to feel small, it says far more about them than it does about you.
When facing covert bullying:
Stay grounded in who you are. Focus on your values, your work ethic, and your love for performing.
Don’t shrink to fit in. Continue showing up with kindness and integrity, even if others don’t.
Find your allies. Connect with cast mates, mentors, or friends who uplift you and treat you with respect.
Speak up when needed. If the behaviour escalates or becomes persistent, talk to a trusted adult, teacher, or director. You have the right to feel safe and respected in any creative space.
Take care of your mental health. Journaling, setting boundaries, or taking time to reconnect with your passions outside the performance space can help you stay balanced.
It’s also important to practice self-reflection. Take time to honestly assess your own actions, words, and energy. Are you lifting others up, or unintentionally contributing to a culture of exclusion or judgment? It’s easy to get caught up in group dynamics or peer pressure, but real leadership — and true character — comes from choosing kindness, even when it’s not the norm. Be the person who welcomes others, supports their growth, and helps create a space where everyone feels safe to shine. In a world that can be challenging, be the light someone else needs.
We also encourage you to revisit our first Wellbeing Tip, which introduced NAPA’s new Anti-Bullying Policy. This policy outlines the standards of behaviour expected within our community and the steps in place to protect and support every performer. At NAPA, we take bullying of any kind seriously — overt or covert — and are committed to fostering an environment where everyone feels safe, seen, and valued. You can read more about it here.
Covert bullying can feel isolating, but you're never alone — and it doesn’t have to define your experience. Keep your focus on the work, the joy of storytelling, and the community you're building. Protect your peace. You are more than someone else's opinion, and your presence onstage — and in the world — matters.